FTM Packing 101: Packers, STP Devices & All-in-One Packing Boxers

Understanding Packing: “Packing” refers to the practice of creating a bulge in the crotch area, typically using a prosthetic known as a packer, to emulate the look (and sometimes feel) of male genitals. For many trans men and transmasculine folks who haven’t had bottom surgery, packing can help alleviate bottom dysphoria – that uncomfortable feeling when your anatomy doesn’t match your gender identity. But just like binding, packing isn’t for everyone, and that’s okay! Some trans guys pack every day, some only for special occasions, and others not at all. It’s a personal choice with no right or wrong. If you’re curious about packing – whether you’re brand new to it or looking to upgrade your gear – this guide covers all the basics: types of packers (soft packers, STPs, 3-in-1), how to choose packing underwear, and why Paxsies’ all-in-one packing boxers are making waves as a convenient solution.

Why Pack? And Do I Have To?

The main reason people pack is to feel more comfortable and confident. A packer can provide a sense of “rightness” – that reassuring weight or silhouette that affirms your gender. It can help your pants fit better and ease social anxiety (like worrying if others notice a flat front). However, you’re not “less trans” if you don’t pack. It’s completely optional. If you do experience significant bottom dysphoria, packing might be worth a try to see if it helps. On the other hand, if packing feels odd or doesn’t appeal to you, there’s no need to force it. As one Paxsies article wisely notes, “whether to do it and how to do it ultimately comes down to personal preference. There’s no right or wrong here!”

If you’re on the fence, you can experiment with simple DIY methods first (more on that below) before investing in a store-bought packer. The goal is to find what makes you feel most comfortable in your daily life.

Types of FTM Packers: Find What Works for You

Packers come in a variety of forms. Let’s break down the common types of packers and prosthetics for FTM individuals:

• DIY Packers (Socks & More): A super low-cost way to try packing is the trusty sock method. Roll up one or two clean socks, shape them into a bulge, and tuck them into snug underwear. Many trans guys start this way to get used to the feeling of a packer. You can also use things like a stress ball or foam if socks aren’t cutting it. Another DIY trick is filling a condom or glove with hair gel to create a squishy, fillable packer (just make sure it’s sealed well!). These homemade solutions are free or cheap, making them great for experimentation. If a sock packer already boosts your confidence, you might eventually move to a more realistic packer – or you might find the DIY route is enough for now. Pro tip: Use tight underwear or a pocketed underwear to keep a sock in place so it doesn’t shift or fall out.

• Basic Soft Packers (Elastomer or Silicone): When people mention an “FTM packer,” they often mean a soft, non-erect prosthetic penis made of either elastomer (a very flexible, skin-like plastic) or silicone. Elastomer packers (like the classic Mr. Limpy or other budget packers) are very squishy and have a realistic look and feel, available in different sizes and skin tones. They tend to be affordable (around $10–$30) – Paxsies even offers Budget Packers in small and medium sizes. The downside is elastomer can be a bit sticky and not as durable; you’ll need to apply cornstarch or baby powder to keep it dry and smooth, and they can degrade over time. Silicone packers, by contrast, are a bit firmer but still soft, often more durable and body-safe (non-porous and easy to clean). They cost more ($40–$80) but can last years. Silicone also holds up to heat, so you can boil or even dishwasher-clean them for hygiene. Many find silicone packers slightly more realistic in texture and easier to maintain (no powder needed). For instance, Paxsies’ Ultra Soft Silicone Packers are noted to be “comfortable, soft, and made of 100% body-safe silicone,” plus they keep their shape well and don’t require powder. Both types usually just sit against your body and rely on tight underwear or a harness to stay in place (more on that soon).

• STP Packers (Stand-to-Pee Devices): Some packers are hollow and double as a stand-to-pee device, often called STP packers or simply STPs. These have an opening or cup that you can urinate into, allowing you to pee standing up at a toilet or urinal. For many trans guys, being able to use the men’s restroom without sitting can be a huge confidence boost. STPs come in various designs; most involve a funnel-like shape integrated into a packer. Using an STP takes practice (expect some trial and error – practicing in the shower is a great idea). It’s important to find one that fits your anatomy comfortably to avoid spills. STPs can be a bit pricier ($50–$100), but they’re an awesome 2-in-1 solution if that functionality matters to you. Paxsies carries options like the CalExotics STP Packer which is a soft silicone STP at an accessible price. Keep in mind, not everyone finds STPs easy – and that’s okay. If an STP packer isn’t for you, you can always carry a separate STP device (like a simple silicone funnel) and use a regular packer for the bulge.

• Pack and Play (2-in-1) and 3-in-1 Devices: Going a step further, some prosthetics can be used for sexual activity in addition to packing. A “pack and play” (2-in-1) means the packer is designed to also function as a penetrative dildo for sex, without needing to swap devices. These often have a firmer inner core or an insertable rod that turns the soft packer into an erection. They’re convenient for intimacy, but the added functionality can make them less comfortable for daily packing (usually they’re a bit firmer or heavier). A 3-in-1 packer refers to a device you can pack with, pee with, and play with – essentially combining an STP and an erectile function. Typically, this involves a rod that can be inserted into an STP packer to make it rigid for sex. For example, some designs let you insert a flexible rod into the hollow shaft of an STP when you want an erection. While 3-in-1s are super versatile, they can be a trade-off: more features can mean more complexity (and cost). They might not pack as comfortably (since they have to accommodate that rigidity or tubing). However, for some folks, a 3-in-1 is totally worth it to have one device to rule them all. If you’re not ready to invest in an expensive 3-in-1, one strategy is to have a simple packer for daily use and perhaps a separate prosthetic for intimacy.

In summary, there’s a spectrum of packers from a rolled sock to high-end prosthetics. If you’re just starting, it often makes sense to try the low or mid-range options (DIY or a budget packer) before considering fancy gear. Many trans guys find that a basic soft packer is more than sufficient for everyday confidence. Others eventually gravitate to advanced STPs or 3-in-1s as they explore their needs. Your journey is your own – pack (or don’t pack) in whatever way makes you feel good.

Keeping That Packer in Place: Packing Underwear and Harnesses

One of the challenges when packing is making sure your packer stays secure in your pants. Nobody wants their prosthetic shifting awkwardly or falling out a pant leg! The solution is either a harness or specially designed packing underwear to hold your packer.

• Traditional Harnesses and Jockstraps: These are like little pouches or straps that you wear under your underwear to hold a packer. For example, the brand RodeoH (often written as “Rodeo’s”) became famous for their harness briefs – underwear with a built-in O-ring to slot a packer (or even an STP). A harness can also be a standalone item like an elastic band that goes around your waist and between your legs with a ring in front. These work, but some find them fussy or uncomfortable for daily wear (imagine an extra layer of straps). They shine during activities like sex or if you want to wear looser boxers over them. TransGuySupply (a popular online trans gear store) offers several harnesses and jock-style packing straps, as well as their own line called Cake Bandit – which is actually packing underwear (next point).

• Packing Underwear (Packer Underwear): This is the game changer for everyday comfort. Packing underwear looks like regular briefs or boxer briefs but has a special pouch or pocket sewn into the front to hold a packer securely. Brands like Cake Bandit (by Transguy Supply), JockMail, and others have created briefs and boxers that keep your packer in the right spot. These eliminate the need for a separate harness. You can just wear your underwear as usual, with the packer tucked in the designated pocket. No more shifting or worrying – the packer stays put even if you’re running or dancing. Paxsies All-in-One Packing Boxers take it a step further: they actually come with a packer included, making them a complete ready-to-wear solution. Each pair of Paxsies packing boxer briefs has a built-in, closable pouch in the front, containing a removable firm foam packer that creates a natural bulge. The foam is lightweight, so it doesn’t feel like you’re carrying a lot, and because it’s enclosed, it won’t shift or fall out, no matter what you’re doing. You can jump, run, even swim with it (yes, Paxsies boxers are water-friendly so you can swim in them!) and the packer stays in place. These boxers are also washable – you can take the foam packer out and hand wash or machine wash it easily. For folks who pack daily, having a few pairs of packing underwear can simplify your morning routine (just put on underwear – done!). And if you already have a favorite silicone packer, note that many of these underwear (including Paxsies’) are compatible with other packers too – you’re not limited to the included foam. Paxsies mentions their pouch fits most basic packers in case you want to swap the foam for your silicone one.

• DIY Pocket: If you’re crafty, you can also sew a small pocket into a regular pair of briefs to hold a packer, or even cut a slit in the front double-layer of a boxer brief to create a makeshift pouch. This is a budget-friendly hack, but if sewing isn’t your thing, the pre-made options above will serve you better.

Paxsies All-in-One Packing Boxers: A Closer Look

We’ve mentioned Paxsies’ packing boxers a few times, and for good reason – they’re a standout option, especially if you’re new to packing or just want a low-fuss solution. Let’s summarize their benefits and how they compare to other packing methods:

• Comes Ready with a Packer: Each boxer includes a removable foam packer. The foam piece is contoured to give a natural bulge, and because it’s firm, it presses outward just enough to mimic a realistic appearance. If you’re not ready to buy a silicone packer, this gets you started immediately. And if you do have one later, you can swap it in.

• Secure, Hidden Pocket: The built-in pouch has a closure (like a button or velcro) to ensure the packer doesn’t pop out. It’s inside the underwear, so nothing is visible except the bulge. This design means you don’t need to wear two layers (as with a harness + underwear combo); it’s all in one piece.

• Comfort for Active Lifestyles: According toPaxsies, these boxers were designed so you can even dance, run, or swim without worry. The fabric is a quality blend that can handle movement and moisture (important if you work out or live in a hot climate). Traditional packers can shift during intense activity, but a well-secured foam insert stays put. Imagine doing gym workouts or sports – a secure packer means one less thing on your mind. (If you’ve ever awkwardly adjusted a sock in your pants, you know why this matters!)

• Easy Care: Both the boxers and the foam insert are easy to wash. Foam packers can be gently hand washed and air dried, and the underwear itself is machine-washable like any other pair. This beats some harnesses that might need delicate washing or can get smelly if not cleaned often.

• Affordability & Bundles: One pair of all-in-one boxers is reasonably priced (around $30). Paxsies even offers bundle discounts – e.g., a 3-pack for about $65, which saves you some money. Considering that’s three underwear and three packers included, it’s a solid deal. By comparison, buying three separate packer briefs from other brands plus three silicone packers could easily cost double. Paxsies wanted to make packing accessible; as they advertise, it’s an “affordable way to pack” that’s comfy and secure.

• Community Approved: Reviews have been positive. Many trans guys appreciate not having to think about “assembly” in the morning – they just grab their Paxisies packing boxer and go. It’s also a confidence boost for newcomers: you know you have a bulge because it’s built in, which can remove some of the anxiety when stepping out the door.

Of course, Paxsies isn’t the only player in packer underwear. As mentioned, TransGuySupply’s Cake Bandit line, Jockmail, RodeoH’s briefs, etc., all serve a similar purpose. But Paxsies combining it with a provided packer (and being a queer-owned brand themselves) gives them a unique niche. They’re kind of like the “all-in-one packing boxers” pioneers. In fact, Paxsies proudly calls them the very first all-in-one solution, and while some competitors have followed, Paxsies keeps iterating with new colors (even Pride-themed ones) and improvements based on user feedback.

Tips for New Packers: Getting Used to Your Packer

When you start packing, it can feel a bit strange at first. Here are a few quick tips for easing into it:

• Start at Home: The first time you wear a packer, try it at home for a few hours. This helps you get used to the feeling of weight in your underwear and figure out the right position. Walk around, sit, and bend to see how it moves with you. This trial run builds confidence before you wear it out publicly.

• Check the Mirror (and Relax): It’s normal to be hyper-aware, thinking “Is my bulge super obvious?” or “Can people tell it’s a packer?” The truth is, cis guys’ anatomy varies – some have a noticeable bulge, others less so. As long as your bulge is in a realistic place (not too high or low), it likely looks completely typical. You might feel like it’s huge, but it’s probably just right or even subtle. Wearing well-fitting jeans or pants will naturally shape how the bulge shows. After a while, you’ll stop noticing it constantly – it will just feel like a part of you.

• Bathrooms and STPs: If you’re not using an STP, you’ll have to manage your packer when using the restroom. In stalls, it’s straightforward (just pull down like normal). At urinals, if you can’t actually pee through it, you might prefer to use a stall to avoid any awkwardness of adjusting a packer. If you are practicing with an STP packer, remember the golden rule: practice at home (in the shower, ideally) until you feel comfortable and can reliably go without spill. It takes patience, so don’t be discouraged by accidents.

• Care and Cleanliness: Keep your packer clean. Wash silicone packers with mild soap regularly; for porous materials like elastomer, wash and dry them often and renew any powder as needed to prevent bacterial growth. If you’re using the Paxsies foam insert, wash it every so often per instructions (especially if you’ve been sweaty). Good hygiene will keep any odors away and extend the life of your gear.

• Backup Plan: It can be wise to have a backup packer or method. Say you drop your packer in an unfortunate place (it has happened!) or you forget to wear it one day – know that you can still go about your day. Carry a spare in your bag if you’re really anxious, or even a sock as an emergency fill-in. With something like Paxsies boxers, you could keep a pair in your gym locker or at a friend’s place just in case. Over time, packing can feel so natural that being without might throw you off; having a backup can ease that anxiety.

Above all, remember that packing is meant to alleviate stress, not cause more. It’s there to help you feel better. If at any point it’s causing discomfort (physical or mental), you have the power to adjust or even take a break from it. Plenty of trans folks pack for a while and then decide they don’t need it daily – and some come back to it later. Your relationship with packing can evolve.

Packing Confidence: You’ve Got This

By now, you should have a solid understanding of FTM packing essentials and the options available. Whether you decide on a soft silicone packer with a harness, an elaborate 3-in-1 prosthetic, or the simplicity of Paxsies’ all-in-one packing boxers, the aim is the same: to feel more confident, euphoric, and you as you go about your day.

Brands like Paxsies and Transguy Supply have made it their mission to create products for our community, so we can live openly and comfortably. Paxsies even integrates feedback from guys like you to refine their packing gear – because who knows trans bodies better than trans people ourselves?

When you put on that packer and see a bulge where there wasn’t one before, it can be a powerful moment. It might seem like a small thing to others, but it’s about you recognizing yourself. Take it at your own pace. Maybe you start wearing it around friends or at LGBTQ+ meetups before wearing it to work or school. Maybe you only pack on “high dysphoria” days. It’s all valid.

And if you ever feel alone in this, remember there’s a whole community of trans guys and non-binary folks out here, many sharing similar journeys. Online forums (like subreddits or Facebook groups) and local support groups can be great places to swap tips on good packers, get advice (ever wondered how to handle airport security with a packer? Others have answers!), or just to laugh about the quirks of packing (we’ve all had a funny oops moment).

The bottom line: packing is about you feeling right in your body and attire. When it’s right, it can be a huge confidence booster. And if it’s not for you, that’s perfectly fine too. You might have other ways to express yourself that make you feel just as great.

Paxsies and similar brands are here to make things a bit easier. As Paxsies says, it’s all about providing “accessible, high-quality products that help people express themselves, no matter who they are”. You deserve no less. Happy packing (if you choose to), and rock on with your awesome self! 🏳️⚧️🎉